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A day in the life of every businessperson is made up of a series of meetings
and greetings. Whether you are making the initial contact with a client
or a colleague, you want to get off on the right foot. Doing so will make
the first encounter and subsequent ones go smoothly and easily. Getting
off on the wrong foot can make for a difficult recovery. Save your energy
for later and use these simple strategies for a successful start.
- Stand up when you meet someone. This allows you to engage the person
on an equal level - eye to eye. By remaining seated, you send a message
that you don't think the other person is important enough to warrant
the effort it takes to stand. If you find yourself in a position where
you can't stand up (such as being trapped behind a potted plant) offer
an apology and an explanation. You might say something like, "Please
excuse me for not getting up. I can't seem to get around the foliage."
- Smile. Your facial expression says more than your words. Look as if
you are pleased to meet the other person regardless of what is on your
mind. Put a smile on your face for the person standing before you.
- Make eye contact. Looking at the people you meet says you are focused
and interested in them. If you are staring off somewhere else, you may
appear to be looking for someone more to your liking to come along.
- Introduce yourself immediately. As soon as you approach people you
don't know or are approached by them, say who you are. Don't stand around
as if someone else is in charge of introductions.
- Include a statement about who you are when necessary. It is not always
enough to say, "Hello, I'm Mary Jones." Give more information. "Hello,
I'm Mary Jones. I work for XYZ Corporation."
- Offer a firm handshake. Extend your hand as you give your greeting.
The person who puts a hand out first comes across as confident and at
ease. Make sure that this physical part of your greeting is professional.
Don't offer bone-crushing grips or wimpy limp-wristed shakes. If you
are confused about men and women shaking hands, don't be. There once
was a time when women didn't shake hands with men. We are past that.
Everyone in business shakes hands with everyone else.
- Learn how to make smooth introductions. In business you always introduce
less important people to more important people. The way to do this is
to say the name of the more important person first, followed by the
words "I'd like to introduce..." and then give the other person's name.
Be sure to add something about each person so they will know why they
are being introduced and will have some information with which to start
a conversation.
- Know who the more important person is. The client or the business
prospect is more important than your boss. Just hope your boss agrees.
- Pay attention to names when you meet people. It is all too common
to be thinking about what you are going to say next and not focus on
the other person. If you concentrate and repeat the name as soon as
you hear it, you stand a better chance of remembering it later.
- Use first names of people whom you have just met only after they give
you permission. Not everyone wants to be addressed informally on the
initial encounter. It is better to err on the side of formality than
to offend the other person right off the bat.
Your goal within the first few minutes of meeting other people is to
make them feel comfortable and to put them ease so they will want to do
business with you. When you are confident of the rules for those critical
initial encounters, you will have a solid start for long-term profitable
relationships.
(c) 2004, Lydia Ramsey. All rights in all media reserved.
Lydia Ramsey is a business etiquette expert, professional speaker, corporate
trainer and author of MANNERS THAT SELL - ADDING THE POLISH THAT BUILDS
PROFITS. She has been quoted or featured in The New York Times, Investors'
Business Daily, Entrepreneur, Inc., Real Simple and Woman's Day. For more
information about her programs, products and services, e-mail her at Lydia@MannersThatSell.com
or visit her web site http://www.mannersthatsell.com.
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